What You Think of Yourself Matters the Most

We are always afraid of what others think of us, which ultimately will lead us to make harsh judgments about ourselves. The need to be liked has become an obsession as we are conditioned to think and behave in ways that are acceptable to others even though it goes against our own values. 

We tend to put ourselves as the centre of universe, thinking that it’s always about us. That’s why we worry so much about what everyone else think. When we say or do something in front of others, we instantly think that “Oh, she doesn’t like what I said because of the look on her face”, “I wonder what he thinks of it”, or “Gosh, did I just embarrass myself doing what I did?”. But you know what? Those thoughts came from us, not them! For all we know, seconds later they will not even be thinking of what we said or did.

It’s Not Always About You, Most of the Time It’s Not! 

It’s simple to understand. For example, you and your friends are having a conversation. You’re thinking of what you’re going to say and after you have said it, you’re thinking of what they are thinking. You know what? It’s the same thing going on with them. They are thinking of what they are going to say and then worrying about what you think of what they have said. Get it? You’re thinking of yourself and they are thinking of themselves, so why do you worry about what they think of you? Bottom line is, everyone is too busy thinking of their own needs to be obsesses with every little thing you say or do. 

The worst part on worrying about what others think is that we let a complete stranger destroy our self-worth. If someone who knows us only for a day or two tell us that we’re stupid and clumsy, that's just their opinion. It's not a fact! They don't know us enough to be able to say such things, so we should never take it personally! 

Stop Gossiping and Avoid Assumptions 

If we hate it when others talk behind our back and make assumptions about us, we should not be doing that! Period. We're only digging our own grave if we bend the truth or speak unkindly about others. What we said is a projection of our own reality, needs and priorities. If someone said that we’re a freak to others, that’s probably who they are or maybe they are jealous or else they will not try to put us down. Always remember: “If you have nothing good to say about others, don't say it!”. The moment we’re about to say something negative about others, stop for a moment and let go of that thoughts. If we even have a 1% doubt of what we said might not be true and it’s just our assumptions, it’s better to keep it to ourselves. Don’t create drama out of nothing. 

"Don’t be obsessed with what others think of you, it will deplete your energy and diminish your self-worth."